Humor…Like Magic…Don’t Overdo It

by brad jackson

There has been a lot of traction to a recent study by Gil Greengross about using Self Deprecating humor to attract girls.  He says “when it comes to getting a woman’s attention, humour is key. More specifically, that a self-deprecating (making fun of yourself) comic will often get steal the most heart”

Here’s the trick, and it’s the SAME thing can be said with magic.  When someone can make us laugh at their own expense, they often appear more accessible. Women like this because a man who is comfortable laughing at himself appears confident, but not arrogant.  Just don’t overdo it to the point that you’re lowering your social value.  There’s a balance.

Nobody likes a ham, but laughter can be a wonderful icebreaker and can really help ease tension on a first date. Of course, when using self-deprecating humour, you run the risk of highlighting major personal flaws. Make her laugh, but don’t make her run. Keep your self-inflicted jabs quick, relevant, and superficial. Don’t troll for her approval with your jokes, just remember to keep it light and maybe mix it up with some cocky comedy (see David DeAngelo) Cute cracks about your mundane job, inability to dance, or eclectic music collection will make you seem more real and approachable without damaging her impression of your character.

You must however have a confident frame while to doing this.  It will send just enough of a mixed signal to throw her.

Just like magic, do a little bit, do it confidently and even somewhat in a self-deprecating way…ala the “reluctant magician.”

Every girl likes to laugh, just not in bed.  Every girl likes magic, but they don’t go home with the magician.

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  • http://myspace.com/poopinghairball Jeremy Gates

    I thought it was a very good article thankyou. I beleive that stuff can be used outside of dating or flirting as well.

  • http://www.jacobthemagician.jimdo.com Jacob

    Thats some handy info right there…….

  • Magicdream

    Yeah, the most appreciated humor and the safest is self-depreciating humor. Why making fun of yourself (in a positive way of course)? Because it is THE LEAST OFFENSIVE SUBJECT, it shows you’re easygoing and also brings many other benefits.And By the rule of reciprocity the woman would soon reveal her inner world, or make fun of herself, which means you two are a lot closer than when you first meet.
    The RULE OF RECIPROCITY applies in all culture and states that when someone gives you something you will feel obliged to return the favor (give-and-yake).
    “One of the most potent weapons of influence around us is the rule for reciprocation. The rule says that we should try to repay, in kind, what another person has provided us.” —Robert B. Cialdini, author of The Psychology of Persuasion.

    Humor is the most attractive quality a man can possess. Humor is the shortcut to attraction and when you can make women laugh, you’ve opened the door to all kinds of possibilities (don’t be naughty and get me wrong here, I don’t speak about sex possibility. LOL)

    On the other hand, generally, human beings always look for remaining consistent. It’s psychologically impossible to dislike the person the person who has already made you laugh genuinely several times, because humans can’t handle the incongruity between laughter (liking someone) and disliking someone.

    Now, let’s talk a bit about how using humor:

    1. Never show your trump card too early: never begin a joke by indicating it’s one, such as: “let me tell you something funny” or “you’re gonna love this joke” …

    2. Smile. Don’t laugh: if you laugh at your own joke, you may spoil the punch line. So you can smile, but don’t laugh.

    3. If you don’t get any laugh at all from the woman, turn it around and make it into an opportunity for laughter or an opportunity to bust her balls. You can even “insult” the listner if you’re bold enough. Say something like: “I knew it! This’s the kind of response you get from a “british” girl…” assuming she told you she’s from UK (it can be any information she’s disclosed to you so far.) Do it happily by using the right body language and confidently; you don’t want that she thinks that you’re really insulting her intelligence or her origin!!!

    4. By staying cocky and funny, women (especially the hotties) will laugh, will get frustrated that you aren’t playing to them, and finally crack and show that they like you. Remember that MOST WOMEN like to be teased. So act on your terms BUT when it comes to sex ALWAYS PAY ATTENTION and Learn what the woman likes

    5. Stick to the 3- second rule (the first impression) in order to establish an image of decisiveness and strong confidence. Here’s a trick that you can use; you can approach a woman as soon as you see her and say: “Remember me?” She’s invariably reply, “No.” And you can say, “You will.” The next time you walk by her (maybe in a few minutes) you can say, “Remember me now?” and smile.

    But sometimes, when you’re in a singles environment like a bar, the best time to approach a woman could be after she’s been there for at least 30 minutes and has had a chance to relax and begin enjoying the scene. So just act according the situation.

    6. Remember, the only power any woman has in your life is that which you give her. So don’t give away any of your power. Keep it for you. Be in control of your reality, and don’t forget, this’s your show and she’s a guest in it.

    Good luck

  • Andy

    NICE! its really quite important for a confident guy to make fun about himself for not seeming arrogant

  • Dan

    I do this often. Very powerful results if it is calibrated correctly. It helps women to see that you are “real”, and condifent in your own skin. Nice article.

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