I had a chance to interview Bobby Rio, creator of
Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy
Since the topic of the program is creating more fun, flirtatious,
and “sexual” conversations with women- I figured I’d get some tips
out of him for improving your conversation skills and creating
attraction in women.
1. What are some of the major mistakes guys make in their
It’s funny…because when you finally figure this out- you’ll look
back and see that there were just a handful of tweaks you needed to
make… and these tweaks vary from guy to guy.
Some guys spend too much time trying to appear “cool” to a woman-
and wind up coming across as stiff and boring. For these guys,
they need to learn how to inject some fun and playfulness into
Some guys tend to get stuck at a “friendly” level. These guys need
to learn how to spot when there is “too much” rapport happening.
Attraction is a balancing act between “tension” and “comfort.” And
a lot of the guys who get stuck at a friendly level are so afraid
of the “tension” that they spend way too much time building rapport
thinking it will make the woman like them. – And it will… as a FRIEND.
Some guys have no clue what to say to a woman. These guys need to
learn how to spot the hooks a woman is giving him. Every time a
woman opens her mouth and says something it should be triggering
three or four things you can say back. The problem a lot of these
guys face (and I suffered this for YEARS) is that they spend too
much time in their own head trying to think of what to say next. A
woman will give you all the material you need. You’ve just got to
learn to spot it.
But the biggest mistake most men are making is that there
conversation are one dimensional and flat. This is because they
don’t have enough “weapons” in their arsenal.
Maybe they are comfortable at telling stories… so that’s all they
do. Or maybe they spend the entire time asking questions. Or
maybe they are funny - so they rely too much on humor.
The fact is, you need to always have about five techniques you
“whip out” to keep the conversation flowing and EXCITING. A
conversation should be like a rollercoaster- where the woman
doesn’t know what twist and turn will come next.
2. How can a guy avoid awkward silences and “running out of things
Ah… my biggest fear.
For me, I was more afraid of the awkwardness of having nothing left
to say- than I ever was of rejection. In fact, if a woman openly
rejected me- I could take it. What I couldn’t take was standing
there not knowing if I should keep talking to her, or give up. I
hated thinking the woman was just being polite and really wished I
But here is thing…
The easiest way to completely eliminate awkwardness is to
acknowledge it in a humorous way.
By calling out the “elephant in the room” and saying what you’re
both thinking… it demonstrates that you are socially intelligent.
And social intelligence is EXTREMELY attractive to a woman.
It’s sort of like if you’ve ever had a girl turn her cheek when you
went for the kiss. The worse thing to do is pretend it didn’t
happen. Because the both of you know you tried to kiss her- so
you’re not fooling anyone by acting “cool” about it.
Just say (in a mocking ‘announcer type’ voice) “And she slips him
the cheek”. This sort of humorous response will put you both back
Women fear awkwardness even more than men do… so by showing a woman
you have enough social intelligence not to let things get awkward…
you become a lot more attractive in her eyes.
3. What are some of the important concepts and techniques that you
cover in Conversation Escalation Make Small Talk Sexy
Well, my goal with this program is to show you how to get your mind
to explode with things to talk about, that continues to flow so
that you feel more confident, natural, and relaxed- when standing
in front of a beautiful woman.
Now, in order to get you to that point, you’re going to have to
learn a few things. And these are probably things you’ve never
heard before…because most of the “gurus” like to avoid the subject
of “small talk.”
In this program we are going to show you how to “steer” a
conversation along. How to spot the “hooks” a woman is giving
you. You’ll learn how to “bait” a woman into asking you about
things you want to be talking about.
You’re also going to learn how inject “sexuality” into a
conversation. Because ultimately- you can have an hour long
amazing conversation with a woman- but if you don’t get her
thinking about you in a “sexual” way- it will be impossible to ever
Now there are a ton of techniques you’re going to learn that almost
force you to become a more attractive talker… but more important
than the techniques, I’m going to teach you a “specific” practice
routine- so that this new way of communicating comes natural to
you- and you remember to use the information when it counts- when
you’re talking to a woman.
If you want to see a sample of some of things you’re going to learn
read though “Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy”
The one thing I want to leave you with is: No matter how
intimidated you are by the thought of becoming a “smooth talker”…
you really are a lot closer than you think.
Once you make a handful of “tweaks” you’ll find that you actually
enjoy talking to women- and will begin to see how easy it is to