5 Valentine’s Day Strategies For Single Guys

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Valentine’s Day is coming up soon and you may have questions about what to do.  (Jeremy does, see below)

MY answer depends on where you are in your relationship status.  When you know what to do based on your situation…your life is easy, you get laid and there’s no drama.  When you DON’T…this just becomes the most frustrating day ever.
Which of these situations sounds most like yours?

1. Single and lookin’ to mingle
2. Casually dating one girl
3. Casually dating MORE than one girl
4. Exclusively dating a girl but not “in love” yet and still testing the waters, not wanting to give the wrong impression too early.
5. In an exclusive relationship with one girl and “in love”

So first I’ll share an email I received today from a reader:

Hi Brad, I was wondering what your take is on Valentine’s Day coming up this month.

I have been following your program and have a handful of women in my life whom I see casually 1-2x a week. I do like some of them better then the others and I’m wondering what to do on V-Day?

Although these women know we’re not in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship I think they will want to spend V-day with me. What advise can you give me for this holiday and what to buy &  do  for girls that I am casually seeing? I feel like I would want to do something nice for some of these girls but afraid that they will get the wrong message and think I want to be in a serious relationship with them and take it to the next level. What would you do in this scenario?

Thanks,
Jeremy

Thanks for the email Jeremy, I’ve actually been in that EXACT situation before and you seem to fall into category #3.  Let’s discuss them all right now and hopefully you and my other readers will get your answer

Category 1: Single and lookin to mingle

This is the most fun for me honestly because if you’re single with nothing holding you back…it’s time to go out to bars and clubs and take your pick of the girls there.  VDay is one of the easiest pickin’ nights of the year to meet and even hook up with new girls for a couple reasons.

A)  They’re a bit bitter that they don’t have a date and some guy splurging and spending a couple hundred bucks on a fancy dinner or jewelry and chocolates.  Bitterness leads to “why-the-hell-not-sex.”  And it’s your job to make them feel loved, even if it’s just for one night.

B)  If you go to a bar or club that no “good boyfriend” would take their girlfriend to on a Valentine’s Date…then you’re chances of getting rejected with the old “I have a boyfriend” line are next ti nil.  She’s going to have to come up with a MUCH better excuse to reject you.  And since most women don’t really like rejecting guys and for reason “A” above….she probably won’t.

Strategy for this night.  Walk up, say hello with a big smile because you are happy to see them.  Do a toast to saying:  “Here’s To Flowershop Appreciation Day….err, I mean Valentine’s Day…And to all us hopeless romantic revolutionaries fighting the system!”   Say this with conviction like Che Guevara and the revolutionary that YOU are!  It will be funny, girls will want to join your revolt and it will be a fun little game you can play.

Then…to switch it up…drop a napkin rose on the girl (AND HER FRIENDS), and say “Now you can’t say that nobody gave you flowers”

Here’s a video on how to make the napkin rose

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Category 2:  Casually dating ONE girl

Challenge: You like this girl and you’d love to get some Valentine’s Day sex but don’t want to come off like you’re TOO into this girl and have her fall prematurely in love with you by trying to overly impress her.

Question 1:  Do you WANT this to potentially become more than a casual fling?

No: Then don’t take her on a date UNLESS you don’t mind risking her getting more attached or if you want to just parlay that into great V Day sex.  It’s not that hard to “not take her out.”  Simply tell her “Happy Valentines Day, you know this is a bit awkward because I know we just started seeing each other and this day is usually reserved for couples who are in the full swing of relationships.  I really do enjoy hanging out with you but unfortunately I made plans a while back with some friends tonight and it would be hard for me to back out.  BUT if I were going on a date, it would be with you.  In FACT, I still want to take you out next weekend to make up for it if that’s cool.”

By scheduling the RAIN CHECK date, she still feels like you want to be with her, but the rain check date won’t seem like Valentine’s Day.  Then let the chips fall where they may.

Yes:  Then take her on a small, fun, casual date

Question 2:  Have you had sex with her yet?

• Yes:  Relax then, this should be easy.
  • Mild:  Take her for sushi.  “B.L.S.”  (Bitches Love Sushi!  another blog post coming on this one).  Sit at the Sushi BAR if possible.  Comedy Club is great here (also great for first dates) and then back to your place where there is a bottle of Chianti waiting and have a rockin good time.
  • Extreme: (And much more fun).  You’ve already had sex with her.  Now spice it up and take her to the local sex toy store.  If you’ve never done this, don’t be nervous, it’s easy.  Walk in with her and tell her that your gift to her is to please her all night long and she gets to choose any toys, lotions, outfits, games, ANYTHING in the store to have fun with and THAT will be her present.  Then you SHOULD go to a little bar/restaurant, get something very “little” to eat and have a drink.  Then let the anticipation build before you take her back to you house and have fun

• • No, haven’t had sex yet:See the MILD date above.  That’s a good one that could lead to sex very easily

3. Casually dating MORE than one girl (Jeremy’s predicament)

This one really isn’t all that complicated if the example above makes sense to you.  If there’s one girl that you like more than the others and that has “potential” for either a relationship or the best sex that night….then take her out like one of the dates listed above.   However, if you’re just wanting to have zero dates and pretend this day didn’t exist at all, that’s not so hard.  But you don’t want to burn any bridges.  I have to go back to the solution listed above to get out of it as well, you just have to say it more than one time…and potentially have more than one “rain check date.”

Bottom Line:  What do you want out of each particular relationship?  You have to know that one first…then act accordingly.

4. Exclusively dating a girl but not “in love” yet and still testing the waters, not wanting to give the wrong impression too early.

I started this article thinking I would be REALLY original with each of these ideas, but I have to be honest, it keeps coming back to the earlier pieces of advice.  This stuff really isn’t that hard when you know the fundamentals.

Do the Mild or Extreme dates above.  Focus them around sex…not the relationship (because you don’t really know if you want that yet) and see what happens.

*Notice there are no real “gifts” in any of the suggestions above (besides the sex toys).  Don’t buy gifts on VDay UNLESS they’re sex related or unless you fall into category 5 below:

5.  In an exclusive relationship with one girl and “in love”

Take this girl out to a nice restaurant, ply her with some great wine.  Buy her some flowers, deliver them to her work and do all the cheesy cliche romantic stuff that makes you want to throw up but that women love.  It will pay many dividends…and NOT doing it will be a far worse fate.

Now I don’t know if any of this is useful to your particular situation or if you’d go about it completely differently or not, but please share your comments below.  Let me know if you liked or hated what I had to say or if you have any other suggestions for Jeremy or anyone else.

Thanks
Brad
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